I love the look of shock on his face. Its a great way to turn the traditional proposal on its head and start a dialog about the issue. I would that Cohabitation may not be the way to go only because there is a strong element of "playing house" with out real consequences of marriage. What I mean is:
Would you behave the same way if someone lives with you or you on "good" behavior in hopes to make it work?
Would you really pool your resources together or still have your money separate? (This isn't a material question, your money is a measure of your life and time)
Are you willing to work thorough the tough questions and or issues with a premarital counselor?
I think if your willing to work thorough those issues.
I'd imagine that with or without marriage, living with someone has its unique challenges. You learn a lot about a person when their guard is down, i.e. at home. So in the end it's a great opportunity to get to know your significant other, and learn if they are willing to compromise in the small things, such as doing dishes. Because if they can handle the small things, the big things will basically take care of themselves!
But, yes, marriage is a very good first step before living with someone. Because that way you're sure they won't just walk out on ya after a teensy fight about the laundry!
Hehe this is cute! And so true!! I love the warm colours used and the expression on the dude
My opinion on the topic (though not necessary): I agree with cohabitation, since that means you get to see "behind the veil" before you decide to spend your life with a person. There are a lot of things that people who have been dating for years don't know about each other because people act differently when they think nobody is looking. That comes out when living together, because you can't put on a face 24/7.
And a lot of the time, these things behind the veil can make or break a relationship. I guess cohabitation is a form of testing the waters, and should only be done if people are seriously thinking of getting married or being life-long partners.
My opinion? I'm gonna let the lawyer-in-training in me take care of this one and say that it depends on the facts of each case. If a couple really love each other, who's to say what they're doing is wrong or right, or even unconventional!
Good answer! I did not expect a lawyer (training or not) to be this heartwarming. I've always imagined them in suits with a more intellectual approach! I guess morality is the main issue here. But what the heck - power of love! Between the two, I'm more marriage than cohabitation. I can't help it. My brains programmed to pick the former as I was raised in a traditional family. There are the pros and cons in both. But it basically leads to whatever makes them happy as long as they're not hurting anyone. By the way, how do you balance out your love for art and being a future lawyer? If you don't mind me asking.
Actually, I'm pro marriage as well. But I have a solution: When I find someone I really love, and I wanna know if I can live with him, I'm gonna go on holiday with the guy! Just not in a hotel or something, where everything gets done by people paid to do it. My man's gotta know how to do some dishes!
As for my balance, there's no real balancing act, to be honest. Art to me is like video games or TV. It's for fun, it's to relax, it's a hobby, it's what I do in my off time. The rest of the time is strictly reserved for hitting the books, though!! Either or, neither nor, you can ALWAYS make time for something you love!